broken up…
I am so very sad to say that my sweet boyfriend who I have known for 8 years is no longer mine. We broke up today. I met him at a club in 1999 in Adams Morgan. I was on the stage at this club and there was a guy on my ass and I didn’t want to dance with him, so I saw this other cute guy on the dance floor and said, "I love guys with glasses" and we started dating.
We ended "part one" in very angry terms and hadn’t spoken for 5 years. We never even ran into eachother although we had lived less than a mile a part!
One day in January I saw him at Dupont Circle and we didn’t talk, but acknowledged eachother. We mutually started lurking around one another’s myspace profiles and blogs and then started talking. We got along as friends at first, in "Part two," even better than in the beginning. We were both grown up, more mature, and completely over the nasty breakup and the bad bood between us.
During the high of having a great re-connection, he threw out the option of traveling for fun to some big cities in the US, and for fun, around the world. I took the bait and said yes to Rome.
We become romantically involved in a blissful relationship and had a very long and wonderful fantasy phase, brushing little things and red flags under the carpet to enjoy the bliss of the unique situation of having a "part two" and being so compatible in so many ways. 
After I got Carmelita and our dogs fight…
After we started to see our true colors…
After we started getting more comfortable…
Things started to show and we started to notice tension and difficulty on personality differences…
I won’t divulge more about why we broke up… but I am DEVASTATED. We had so much potential and were so perfect together in so many ways. Unfortunately, we had some things that just didn’t fit right and instead of moving forward towards increased bitterness, resentment, and distance, we decided to talk and end it.
He wanted to work on it and I was just too tired from the drama of life outside of the relationship (physical injuries, new dog, family crisis) to want to fix it.
I’m so very sad to lose someone who was my best friend. I initiated the breakup, but I think that he and I both agree that it is for the better.
I love him dearly, more than anyone and I will always wonder what would have happened if I had the energy, patience and time to try to make it work.
August 31st, 2007 at 9:55 am
hey hey..take it easy..im sure if u are made for each other..no matter wat, u will be wif each other..
August 31st, 2007 at 11:00 am
Life is not perfect in so many ways. Even when you think that you’re very compatible in almost everything, there is the turbulence that you have to hurdle. Once you tolerated this turbulence, that will be the end of the sweet moments you have had. Better still to solidify all matters and patch up everything to hurdle the turbulence you had encounter. So life must go on.
August 31st, 2007 at 1:38 pm
Thanks Y’ALL.
August 31st, 2007 at 11:11 pm
I know what that’s like. I’m going through the same thing. me and my boyfriend of 6 years and fiance for 2 years just broke up. We where in the same boat together for 3 years and then broke up for a few months got back together for part 2 for 3 years and now we are brokin up again. So, I know how it is. I wish you the best of luck.
September 1st, 2007 at 3:34 pm
I hope u just worked out fine, just passing by from Sydney
September 1st, 2007 at 9:20 pm
i broke up with my long time boyfriend, too, not too long ago, so you are not alone. take good care of yourself.
September 1st, 2007 at 11:58 pm
THATS DO SAD. BUT DONT WORI IT WILL HEAL. THE TIME WILL HEAL THE PAIN
September 3rd, 2007 at 9:18 pm
If you really love each other when everything is sweet and dandy, then you should have enough love to get you though the bad days and fix things up.. If you love someone so much you should fight with all your mighthy.
September 3rd, 2007 at 9:24 pm
yeah… we had to accept that no matter what we try.. things arent working..no matter how compatible two people can be.. there are things more important to consider… yet.. remember.. if you are meant with someone to live with forever… love will make a way.. to make something for the best.. so stay strong! you are not alone… GOD BLESS!
September 4th, 2007 at 12:37 am
aw.. i hope you can get thru this fast. best, D
September 4th, 2007 at 4:26 am
my heart got broken a couple of times before and it was a long long time ago but I eventually found someone who loves me and sticks with me all the way through the hard times. Time will heal your pain.
September 5th, 2007 at 4:20 am
Can’t say you’re right…can’t say you are wrong. I hope you heal and feel better.
September 5th, 2007 at 11:55 pm
oh well, what do i say. been there done that n one fine day bam! i married my husband who is probably the best in the world. 12 married yrs now. 2 kids. life goes on sweetie. swallowing that bitter pill is never easy. but i did many times. n u never know whats round the corner. there is hope.. there is hope..where there is life.. there is hope.
September 6th, 2007 at 7:51 am
Hey I just broke up with mine last night.. It’s not because we don’t love each other anymore but because I need to be away from him, or if not it’ll be my destruction.
September 6th, 2007 at 12:27 pm
Goodluck. hope your scar will heal. believe me, be steadfast, and you’ll be able to face it.
someday, somewhere, both of you will be able to look back at the memories, and yet you can smile. keep the good memories, they’re too precious to be forgotten.
as for me, been through this, 4 years ago. and oh man, I still feel a bit of the pain from time to time. well, like you said, you feel very compatible, but life goes on.
too much differences (eg. for my case: religion, race, language, culture, nationality) all can be a factor. but be proud of who you are and what you have gone thru…
September 7th, 2007 at 2:41 am
the pain goes sooner then you think. or so i thought, but fear not you will deffinetly find some one out there for you may god guide you to the one man you meant to be.
September 7th, 2007 at 11:35 pm
you have loved once, twice, you could love again. there is a reason why this happened.. you will know in time. Have faith..
September 8th, 2007 at 11:24 am
i was so touched of your blog…i feel like cryin’…i know how u feeli’n right now! that’s why i’m getting ready of what will happen tommorrow…it’s too hard to forget someone that you’ve been for such a long time.you are not alone…
September 9th, 2007 at 10:39 am
you know what im so feel cry and sad about what happen to you and your bf.for 8 years…i know that its too hard to forget most especially the happy and sad moments that you have but you need to move on and always think that God have plan for what happen to you, maybe someday you can find a right guy for you in a right time…be your friend
ghen
September 9th, 2007 at 5:56 pm
Debbie, Nothing in this world is assured, not even life itself. Not even happines. loving means ready to get hurt, ready to cry. Its time to move on with your life. Move on girl, move on…
September 10th, 2007 at 3:59 am
you should have tried, gave effort, at least one more time..just one more before you let go..or maybe just asked for a vacation or a leave not a break..from him.but now that it’s over just stop torturing yourself from the what-if’s u know..love yourself first-time again:)
September 10th, 2007 at 4:36 pm
Hi Debbie,that’s the sad part of having that “what if” thing in your mind.What if you’ve been more patient and adjusted to your indifferences instead of deciding to call it off? I’m sad as well and felt your sadness.It’s not easy to loose someone you love so dearly in your life.For me relationship is a working process against all odds.If you want to grasp it you have to bend a lil bit to conform with each other to make things better.It’s a mutual agreement so I’m sure if ever you decide to rekindle that amazing years together the door is always open I hope but if not then I bet someone better is waiting on the other end…be lucky!!! =)
September 10th, 2007 at 5:38 pm
sorry for your loss.
i’m sure it was a hard decision. but the right one.
don’t look back. move on.
let’s face it, if it didn’t work the first two times, it won’t work at all.
at least, you know more about what you want - you’re learning about yourself. and that’s important.
so it’s time to live for you.
discover yourself. keep busy. have fun - no expectations and no regrets.
good luck, brah.
cheers.
e
September 10th, 2007 at 10:51 pm
its a matter of choice really, I went thru a very tough one. it’s what makes you happy that’s important. i wouldnt want to put myself on that spot wondering. if you truly love him and if you think life will be misserable without him, then isn’t he really worth the while? always remeber that “patience is a virtue”. Ive been there and trust me, men dont think, act and see things the way we do. if your man needs to be led, then be the guide….you’ll do what it takes to keep the love of your life……
September 11th, 2007 at 1:00 pm
I’m sure you will be fine. learn from the past, face the present, think about the future… lots of wonderful things out there, all you need to do is believe that somehow this is what life is all about… Take it easy…
September 12th, 2007 at 2:58 pm
I’m so sorry to hear that, i feel for you, i’ve been d same situation before…for many years ago. I know how you feel but life must go on.. it takes time to heal the pain but you will be just fine believe me… Just move on and think yourself, and think the future.I know someone out there will wait for you…good luck
September 12th, 2007 at 7:45 pm
Be strong and have faith in God… we are in the same phase..
September 13th, 2007 at 4:07 am
Love no comment!
September 14th, 2007 at 5:00 pm
hi…i know how hard it is to go through all of that, you love the person yet you have to let go ‘coz of certain circumstances…it’s hard, really hard, to move on and go separate lives when you both know that you still love each other…
You just have to learn to live with it, like what i’m doing…eventually you’ll learn to smile again even if you hear his name…
Goodluck to us, to you… May God guide us all…
September 15th, 2007 at 5:46 am
well, my friend…few things I want to tell you:
1. yer one pretty ‘n smart woman.
2. you juz have to be strong ‘n think–it’z nvr yer lost but HIS.
3. Whatever happened…Charge it to experience!
September 20th, 2007 at 8:00 pm
well i have this very big problem…its hard to keep it coz i’m gonna blown up anytime.i hate him very much…
October 31st, 2007 at 8:42 pm
Hi Debbie, God know’s your situation…just pray that you’ll find the right person. just seek first the kingdom of God and all this things shall be added unto you. Godbless!