Trick or treat– relationship surprises
I’m going to Dallas this weekend for work. yippee. Drea is staying with my friend Roz the night. This means that I miss all of the exciting Halloween parties. Oh well. My last Halloween was spent with an awkward boyfriend who was over-conversative save his penchant for pot. This boy was blazin every time I saw him. He and I had a purely physical relationship. We had nothing in common except for the fact that we could talk about politics and that we were totally physically attracted to each other. We would fight like cats and dogs but making up was incredible. I tell you, there is something to be said about pheromones and the power of physical attraction. We both held on to our relationship as long as we could continue to get good bootie. Wooooeeeeh. Oh yeah, we both like cats.
Last Halloween sucked with this boyfriend and this year with me in Dallas will be no different. With all the running of errands, picking up from school, helping with homework, dropping off and missing buses, waking up early and constant doctor’s appointments and trekking to ERs… I haven’t had a chance to even consider THINKING about a Halloween costume, let alone going out and putting the pieces together. But who cares about this holiday–I mean, I seriously have bigger fish to fry. or bigger kids to raise? or bigger hell to raise?
so back to last Halloween… I remember thinking that this guy wasn’t going to work out for a whole host of reasons but the physical made it all to convenient to pay no attention. It is so clear when you’re dating someone wrong for you that you should just break it off, but the second you see them and you start kissing… all of it goes out the window for the fun of the moment. Fast forward to my most recent relationship with this other guy who had a whole host of issues that I won’t go into. It was clear to me that it wasn’t going to work but I would throw it out the window and focus on all the good things about him. I haven’t spoken with him in 3 weeks and I’m quite happy about it. I realize that there is a world out there and that I’ll find someone when the timing is right (this is definitely not a good time to be a lookin for love!) I shouldn’t have criteria for a good boyfriend, but I’ll lay down some nice perks:
- an interest in politics
- liberal
- fun
- enjoys electronic music, esp daft punk
- not on a constant buzz from alcohol, pot, or other controlled substance
- appreciation of calm times and ability to be flexible in chaos
- good with kids (just thought I would throw that in but I am by no stretch of the imagination planning on ever having kids. ever. kaput.)
- smart, which does not necessarily mean well-educated
- fast typist–that’s just because my main mode of communication currently appears to be IM or text
- technophile (another for fun)
- open minded
- philosophical
- gives good massages
Of course my last boyfriend was incredible and didn’t have all of the above traits (but was an expert at the last one *sigh*), so it’s not a litmus test or whatever for future bfs. Just a fun wish-list. I did date someone in college who had all of the above traits but he was a total prick, so you never know!
October 25th, 2006 at 5:43 am
ARGH! You won’t be in DC this weekend! I will. Drat, everyone seems to be leaving town. Have fun in Dallas. And you’ll find the right guy, you’re great at meeting people.
October 25th, 2006 at 6:31 am
It’s sad to think of a Halloween without Debbie in costume… so I’m not going to think about it, and you can’t make me!
October 25th, 2006 at 10:13 am
hahaha you guys!
I’ll be in town Saturday evening, flight gets in late thought!
I’m thinking of being a gay conservative for halloween–I’ll be too tired to think straight! I’ll wear khakis and a polo shirt, try to assimilate as much as possible, and sacrifice my values and beliefs for monetary gain. How about that?
October 26th, 2006 at 11:06 pm
Hey Debbie liked the page and about what you want in a BF.
Well, it should also be fair for him that, you show that you would do stuff for him, and not show in the note above that he, is a slave to ride with you.
Men dislike women like that, and in fact men hate the fact that women only want us for massages and cooking and all the other jazz and crap.
It should be equal, if he for examples cooks, you should add on and say that you would equally do the same.If women think in this day and age, they want equality and they have it.
They should never then forget that and era or age can turn on them and this society can once again change and become Male dominated.Men have given women equality, so cherish it, and not ever push it.
October 29th, 2006 at 11:25 pm
what a sad list..why? coz i hope i had before i met mine :(.i accidentally fell in love before i make sure he fits in my supposed-to-be-made-before-i-met-
him list…
November 1st, 2006 at 8:03 am
you got me reading through all your blog posts. i just wanna let you know that i enjoyed it very much. keep it up please!
November 8th, 2006 at 11:30 am
you’ve got a talent for writing.
November 10th, 2006 at 3:30 am
hi debbie ur good in writing, another sydney sheldon? wow…ur interested in politics hehehe…are u a fan of george bush?…luv u ! mwaaaaaaaaa
November 24th, 2006 at 8:17 pm
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