Life

Yesterday would have been my sister Susan’s 40th birthday. I always get my bro Ralph’s b-day mixed up with it, his is on the 10th. All day long on the 10th I was upset and trying to see/hear signs of Susan, but my sister Alex cleared up that *yesterday* was in fact her birthday.

I spent the day making amends with an old boy I broke it off with after being his dance partner for YEARS–Gianni. Gianni is my only Catholic friend and he took Drea and me to the national basilica for a chorale mass–it was beautiful.

I think I could get back into being a catholic if it weren’t for the damned politics. Mass always teaches lessons, but on too many occasions, the priests like to include subtle and not-so-subtle political advice in their sermons. Yesterday’s mass proved a-political save a mention of the "sanctity of life" in the "lord hear our prayer" piece. Of course we all respect life in one way or another, but "sanctity of life" is definitely code for unborn clumps of cells developing in the womb of a fully born and developed MOTHER!

Back to Susan. I miss her. I miss her a lot. I have so many regrets about not seeing her the year that I was blamed for stealing christmas toys they had allegedly intended to give to my other sister’s family. It was a total mix-up that prevented me from seeing her and her kids for the entire year that I lived in Los Angeles. I swear if I knew what the following years would bring, I would have forced my way back into her life and spent more time getting to know her and her kids.

Coulda-woulda-shoulda.

I can only try to spend more time with them now and value the time and life we have right now. The sanctity of life is not just in the determination of where life begins but taking full advantage of the life you have now. THat said, I’m glad that I’m doing all that i can to live life fully, including respecting my body, respecting my mind, giving all that I can to my family and friends, and loving the earth. When did I become a hippie?

38 Responses to “Life”

  1. Bri Says:

    You are NOT a hippie. I loved what you had to say about life, that was very insightful and full of wisdom eminating from your soul. You know…if you’re interested in learning a little bit more about spirit, I would suggest reading Sylvia Browne, whom I love. Anyhow, I love you and I think you’re the best!!

    -Bree
    Your best friend in the entire universe or atleast in Los Feliz, California.

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  4. Andrew Says:

    I’m glad you have realized the importance of family. Those last two paragraphs were really awesome.

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  8. Evan Says:

    Hi i just read your blog…very insightful, and I amglad to hear you have no regrets any longer and that you have learned the gift of loving and repecting YOU.
    Love you,
    Evan

  9. 'REY Says:

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  11. Bernardo Says:

    The I see it, you are as beautiful and captvating the way you look with your picture.

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  15. Claire Says:

    Hi!

    I like your views and the way you put together your thoughts.. the last paragraph hit me. Indeed, coulda woulda shoulda…. but hey,it’s not too late to start doing the things you’ve always wanted to do… right?

    Enjoy life!

  16. Aleeh Says:

    Hi Debbie, i have read all your blogs with lots of fun and have learnt as well some things from you. It’s funny to know that your brother and I has the same birthday.
    I know how is it to be in your shoes being a single mom. I am too. Only, I have 2 wonderful kids to raise. God bless you!!!

  17. Chang Says:

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  19. Marj Says:

    Hi,luv what u said in ur last paragraph..life is bout choices n we make r own —life is 2 short, right? keep on doing what u luv d most :) kudos!

  20. jijo Says:

    very very happy birthday to your sister by jijo

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  28. Ken Says:

    Hi,
    I worked near you back in March of this year. I found a church in Shelbyville, Delaware that I love. It is called The People’s Community Church. I seen no politics there at all. I was treated as an equal to all members. That is what they preach. I might move there soon.

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    hihihihi nice story girl…

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  34. Richard Says:

    I totally Understand where you are coming from. Lost my sister who was 27, 3 weeks ago. I hope it gets easier as time goes on. But I agree about living life to the fullest. Never know what tomorrow hold for you.

  35. Debbie Says:

    I’m sorry to hear about your sister Richard. It’s a tragedy when we lose a loved one, but especially so when they had so much ahead of them. Time will help…

  36. AJESH Says:

    hai guys!nice to meet u

  37. AJ MaO'Brn Says:

    Remember friends come and go, but your family will always be there for you. Time heals, make peace and all is well, its not yet too late to mend.

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