newly single!!!

GW Bush once tried to use the expression: fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me!

Here’s another dumb expression: once bitten twice shy. I’ve been dumped by the same guy twice! I guess it’s twice bitten, once not so shy! did that make any sense?

I should be upset about this, and I am. I am a little sad. However… after spending 10 days in Texas with family, viewing, firsthand the self-destructive behaviour of my sister, the stress of an aging mother, the mental breakdown of my nieces, and the family meltdown resulting in aforementioned nieces being sent in various directions in across the country, I must say that getting dumped by Chris (for a second time) doesn’t hurt as much as I thought it would.

I guess since I haven’t seen him in a while, the geographical distance and time/space removed from our intense physical and emotional closeness makes it easier to digest.

It also helped to have seen it coming. I saw it coming  last night when I received a text message that read: "… I’m uncomfortable with my attachment to you." Well, I’m glad to know that being attached to me is so cumbersome. I also saw it coming because he hadn’t called me all day.

Well, I also think it was easier to deal with because his reason for breaking up is totally legit. I can understand where he’s coming from and he needs to get his shit in order. It’s really all good. I don’t think we can be friends though because it would be a slippery slope as it was before when we wanted to be just friends. And then friends that messed around. And then friends with benefits… soooo… that said…

*sigh*

I will be a single mom and no more "Uncle Chris" which was what Aundrea REALLY wanted to call him. ha!

Here’s the only pic I got with us together (a bad one of both of us, but whatevs). 137656253445_3300

Good bye my sweets!!!!! It was fun and wonderful while it lasted.

14 Responses to “newly single!!!”

  1. Itu Says:

    hey u seem to be a strong woman.I hv gone thru the same kinda pain but trust me now it doesnt hurt anymore.God Bless u n ur family!

  2. Debbie Says:

    Thanks. I’m actually REALLY sad about it. I really miss him.

  3. Lee Says:

    There’s this guy I’ve known for like 6 months, in such a short time we got really close despite the individual differences (religion, culture etc). We both came from a bad relationship and all. I knew it was doomed from the start but I gave it my shot anyway. It has been more than a week now since we had a contact. It wasn’t easy swallowing one’s pride chicken…I am so used to guys chasing after me…damn him. I made the first call. He said he was tired… been working long hrs. The second call surprised him in a good way. I had to make up some excuse.

    “I was wondering if you were the one who called up while I was away…”

    “No. (Pause) How have you been?”

    “I am ok. Just trying to keep myself busy lately since I don’t wanna be stuck at home and stuff..”

    “I don’t wanna be stuck in here either.”

    “Hey, I tried to leave you some msgs on your ym… Are you hiding from me?”

    “My pc is acting up plus I am moving out of the apartment soon. Been really busy.”

    “Are you still mad at me?”

    “There’s nothing that you do that makes me mad.”

    “I dunno man. You tell me.”

    “I can’t run this on my own. I need your help.”

    PAUSE

    “When will I see you again?”

    “As soon as I settle down…” He said.

    ” I just hope that I am still available when that time comes.” I cut him off.

    Tragedy plus time equals comedy. If I bothered ya with my narrative, I am sorry ;) I just feel I had to let it all out.

  4. Debbie Says:

    thanks for sharing Lee. men are so confusing!

  5. Lee Says:

    My time frame for him to get over his shit is two weeks( he already consumed the first week).. If after two weeks he is still in deep, I’m out. Time to move on girl ;-)

  6. -AbHiE- Says:

    thats so sad but ur such a toughie! u go girl :)

  7. Andrew Says:

    That was one of the best blog posts I’ve ever read about a breakup, ever. Hope life eases up on you soon. :)

  8. matt Says:

    I’m blowing my hard earned money at the moment. Well, it’s not exactly my hard earned money, it’s my parents

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  10. jOE Says:

    very hot….. can I to be your ….. ehm….ehm

  11. Dafna Says:

    you’re cute and entertaining
    keep on writing

  12. baby vanessa Says:

    in my country, we believe that things that don’t belong to us eventually end up down the road. people who think they don’t need us has got a thing coming… we don’t really needthem.

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  14. Sanz Says:

    u guds

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