being a mom
I might be a mom! To a pre-teen! A best friend of mine has a kid who might need a place to stay while things calm down in her home. My friend says it’s okay for her to stay with me as long as I can transfer her to a junior high in the area and can raise her for the next couple of months. There’s a chance that my friend’s husband will not agree to the plan, but if he does, I’m bracing myself for mother hood! imagine me a mom?
I am more paranoid than I appear on this blog (unless I don’t realize how transparant my fears are) and I’m afraid that i will be stressed out unless I know where my adopted daughter is at all times. How will my life change (and hers?):
- I will have to get up early to take her to school
- I will have to leave work early to pick her up
- I will have to get her a membership to my gym
- I will have to get her a metro smart trip card
- I will have to get her a family cell phone so we can know where we are at all times
- I will have to postpone my vacation to California (which I hadn’t blogged about, but was planning to take mid September)
- I will have to either sign up my adopted daughter to yoga or quit it (it’s actually been a pain to make it to classes each week)
- on the encouragement of my friend (real-mom), I will have to take her to church on Sundays AAAAAAAAAAAAAAERRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe I can take her to a gay-loving unitarian church??? ahhaha
She will have to:
- Get used to living in the city
- Make new friends and be "the new kid"
- spend time bored @ my work after school
- deal with paranoid me wanting to know where she is all the time
- be forced to work out every day
- give up on some old hobbies possibly (I don’t know what they are, but she might not be able to keep them up in the city)
- share a studio with me!
We will both be able to do the following fun things:
- Trips to the museum
- swimming together
- dance parties in my apartment
- coffee at dupont circle and sunbathing
- road trips to Baltimore and NC to see Paul
- walking Wendy’s dog
- hiking in Roosevelt Island
- SHOPPING
- cooking at home together!
- homework (I LOVED homework when I was young, hopefully, I won’t do hers for her!)
Well, it’s going to be hard on $$$, but I would just have to learn not to spend so much because I’m sure I could afford the extra expenses… hmmmm..
By the way, her staying with me is like 5% likely to 95% unlikely, but I just wanted to go through the what if’s with you! If she stays it might be for a month or two or 4…
August 18th, 2006 at 4:31 pm
nice story and nice picture… thanks for sharing it…. bye georgous..
August 18th, 2006 at 10:06 pm
You summed up so well what are the changes that will happen to you and to the kid. I feel I should create my own list with me being a dad of 4 days now. This blog set me the right perspective of raising my own.
Thanks. And if the 5% possibility does push through, I think you can handle it. You have said it so yourself already. 
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August 19th, 2006 at 4:49 pm
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August 19th, 2006 at 5:21 pm
I think it would be good for all — hope it works out.
August 19th, 2006 at 7:07 pm
you’re a really good writer.. i enjoyed reading your blog when friendster was shut down for maintenance! =) and for the record, i think just the fact that you layed out all the what ifs means you’ll be a good adopted mom.
August 19th, 2006 at 10:04 pm
not bad
August 19th, 2006 at 10:07 pm
Not badddddddddddddddddddd
August 19th, 2006 at 10:08 pm
hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
August 19th, 2006 at 10:28 pm
good luck on being an instant mom.
she might even come to like u more than her own mom. haha!
August 19th, 2006 at 10:28 pm
hello, you dont know me, but i read this entry and wow, you can be a great mom… and cool too, keep it up…
good luck…
August 19th, 2006 at 10:38 pm
Not bad…