being a mom

I might be a mom! To a pre-teen! A best friend of mine has a kid who might need a place to stay while things calm down in her home. My friend says it’s okay for her to stay with me as long as I can transfer her to a junior high in the area and can raise her for the next couple of months. There’s a chance that my friend’s husband will not agree to the plan, but if he does, I’m bracing myself for mother hood! imagine me a mom?

I am more paranoid than I appear on this blog (unless I don’t realize how transparant my fears are) and I’m afraid that i will be stressed out unless I know where my adopted daughter is at all times.  How will my life change (and hers?):

  1. I will have to get up early to take her to school
  2. I will have to leave work early to pick her up
  3. I will have to get her a membership to my gym
  4. I will have to get her a metro smart trip card
  5. I will have to get her a family cell phone so we can know where we are at all times
  6. I will have to postpone my vacation to California (which I hadn’t blogged about, but was planning to take mid September)
  7. I will have to either sign up my adopted daughter to yoga or quit it (it’s actually been a pain to make it to classes each week)
  8. on the encouragement of my friend (real-mom), I will have to take her to church on Sundays  AAAAAAAAAAAAAAERRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Maybe I can take her to a gay-loving unitarian church??? ahhaha

She will have to:

  1. Get used to living in the city
  2. Make new friends and be "the new kid"
  3. spend time bored @ my work after school
  4. deal with paranoid me wanting to know where she is all the time
  5. be forced to work out every day
  6. give up on some old hobbies possibly (I don’t know what they are, but she might not be able to keep them up in the city)
  7. share a studio with me!

We will both be able to do the following fun things:

  1. Trips to the museum
  2. swimming together
  3. dance parties in my apartment
  4. coffee at dupont circle and sunbathing
  5. road trips to Baltimore and NC to see Paul
  6. walking Wendy’s dog
  7. hiking in Roosevelt Island
  8. SHOPPING
  9. cooking at home together!
  10. homework (I LOVED homework when I was young, hopefully, I won’t do hers for her!)

Well, it’s going to be hard on $$$, but I would just have to learn not to spend so much because I’m sure I could afford the extra expenses… hmmmm..

By the way, her staying with me is like 5% likely  to 95% unlikely, but I just wanted to go through the what if’s with you! If she stays it might be for a month or two or 4…

12 Responses to “being a mom”

  1. Saint-Rald Says:

    nice story and nice picture… thanks for sharing it…. bye georgous..

  2. Marvin Ian Says:

    You summed up so well what are the changes that will happen to you and to the kid. I feel I should create my own list with me being a dad of 4 days now. This blog set me the right perspective of raising my own. :-) Thanks. And if the 5% possibility does push through, I think you can handle it. You have said it so yourself already. :-)

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  4. Heri Says:

    cntk sd23456

  5. oce Says:

    I think it would be good for all — hope it works out.

  6. Angela Says:

    you’re a really good writer.. i enjoyed reading your blog when friendster was shut down for maintenance! =) and for the record, i think just the fact that you layed out all the what ifs means you’ll be a good adopted mom.

  7. mc onedha Says:

    not bad

  8. NtoKzzzZZZzzz Says:

    Not badddddddddddddddddddd

  9. kak tias Says:

    hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

  10. dzudzu Says:

    good luck on being an instant mom. ;) she might even come to like u more than her own mom. haha!

  11. Jessica Ann Says:

    hello, you dont know me, but i read this entry and wow, you can be a great mom… and cool too, keep it up…

    good luck…

  12. Valentino Says:

    Not bad…

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