what to do, what to do.

I have to make a decision by Saturday. should I flip a coin?

options are as follows:

1) follow the mind, the rational decision. I know what will eventually happen and I need to nip this problem in the bud.

2) follow the emotions, let the heart decide. Give the person a second chance and try to be more understanding.

3) allow communication with the person in question and don’t decide until more time passes? But would I simply be postponing the inevitable decision?

What should I do?

55 Responses to “what to do, what to do.”

  1. Anita Says:

    Are you sure the decision is inevitable?

  2. Lee Says:

    Hmmm… when one is excited or overwhelmed with emotions, more often than not, he or she gets a lil irrational therefore missing out THE details. Sleep on it ;)
    ***How much can you be tolerant of each other’s shortcomings?

  3. Nikki Says:

    Is this about a boy?

  4. Debbie Says:

    I love that you gals are reading this and offer your advice.

    Nik-Nak–you get me! So that’s an affirmative ghost rider!

    Anita–the decision currently is not inevitable (how confusing) but only time will tell (how redundant).

    Lee–I slept on it, still unsure. Still as irrational as ever!

    Ladies–help me out! Perhaps I should divulge more details.

  5. zulhafis Says:

    you have nices (.)(.)

  6. rolly Says:

    how r u?

  7. prakher Says:

    sexy

  8. quay Says:

    I am going through the same but from the other side. I am the guy that wants the second chance but did not get. I decided to let her go because it is what she needs to do for herself if not for me. I’m not mad at her just mad at myself because, the only reason she left was because she thought I’d stop loving her. I am willing to wait and if your guy loves you too he would wait. If you are meant for each other, then it will happen. Life is full of obstacles, you’re a fool to think otherwise.

    Best of luck,
    Quay

  9. Sean Says:

    i think i love you

  10. Debbie Says:

    Sean, you look hot in your third pic. however, you like like a member of the Village People in your other shot. ANYWAYS, it’s really not that big of a deal. I’m going to wait! Thanks for your advice folks. I think I love each and every one of you too!

  11. oliver Says:

    …the heart has nothing to do with our decisions…and there can never be such a thing as heart over the rationality of the human brain…check your science people and keep that heart pumpin blood into your system…by d way you look beautiful honey, and its my brain tellin me..not my heart..

  12. joe Says:

    big

  13. Traveler Bill Says:

    Your first problem is that you are flipping a coin to decide a 3 option problem. Maybe one of the computer nerds out there can create an electronic deciding machine.

    Or draw cards. (Old School!)

  14. nielz Says:

    I very enthusiastic see you
    make me of yours friend.

  15. walter Says:

    Just wait untill you will have no doubt
    And after…………
    Who can say where the road goes.

  16. romY Says:

    You’re one in a million

    Sometimes love can hit you everyday
    Sometimes you can fall for everyone you see
    but only one can really make me stay
    A sign from the sky
    said to me

    You’re one in a million
    You’re once in a lifetime
    You made me discover one of the stars above us
    You’re one in a million
    You’re once in a lifetime
    You made me discover one of the stars above us

    I’ve been looking for that special one
    I’ve been searching for someone to give my love
    And when I thought that all the hope was gone
    a smile, there you were and I was gone

    I always will remember how I felt that day
    A feeling indescribable to me
    Yeah
    I always knew there was an answer for my prayer
    And you, you’re the one, the one for me

    In the beginning i was cool and everything was possible
    they tried to catch me but it was impossible
    Nobody could hurt me it was my game
    Until I met you baby and were the same
    You didn’t want me, I wanted you
    Because the funny thing bout it was I like the show
    I like it when its difficult I like it when its hard
    then you know it’s worth it when ya found your heart
    Find you’re heart…

  17. romY Says:

    Sometimes we meet new people not
    by chance nor by fate, Sometimes they
    are given by God as blessings called
    FRIENDS. I’m thankful you are one of
    those blessings…….

  18. romY Says:

    you are really cute!

  19. Artemis Clark Says:

    anu yun pwet ng bata??????????

  20. Lix Says:

    You are doing the right thing asking for other people’s opinion. When I hit a fork on the road, I do the same thing. Also, I usually pray about it. When the dillema is a matter of the heart, I have to know first how much can my heart take…or sometimes just say ” love as if you have never been hurt. ”
    If you know its heading the wrong way..logic dictates..dont do it.. unless the lesson is new.. if the lesson you will learn from this experience is old news, then why reopen old wounds. When I go on a trip, I don’t like going to a place I already have been. There are many other places to visit.
    If its being bored vs having the same experience, and getting hurt..well… I don’t know.. is boredom better than experiencing some “spice of life” (even though it maybe stale spice)?
    Good luck.. if I were you.. What I’m going to do is to be “true” to my own conviction. The outcome does not lead to regrets… :)

  21. patrick Says:

    hey i think ur hot,, give ur digits n ill call u or call me,, 5024722489,, patrick aight,, talk 2 yah soon,, n have a great day,..

  22. Drex Says:

    ey, i’m in the same situation as you are. postponing ur decision won’t cut, been there done that! the more you think about it the more you get confused. if this is all about love, know everything about the person well and if you think you can handle his personality and all in the future by all means follow your heart. if you’re not sure maybe you need to examine to yourself what you really need out of this situation.. Good luck.. ciao!

  23. christian Says:

    hi ilove u

  24. Debbie Says:

    I haven’t made a decision. I’m postponing and not thinking about it!

  25. berx Says:

    nice mammary glands.

  26. mackey Says:

    i remember my mother when i was a baby because of your picture…

  27. mackey Says:

    i remember my mother when i was a baby because of your picture…

  28. wahyu Says:

    nice mammae

  29. mark anthony Says:

    i just want to say that whatever your heart and mind decide follow them and in the end you’ll be happy!!!
    trust me!!!!
    ive been there!!!!
    and by the way nice titts!!!!
    i love it!!!!
    mwuah!!!!5

  30. iskandarLimited Says:

    hi add me at naens1982@yahoo.co.uk

  31. steridolreddy Says:

    hi really u r sexy & very hot

  32. sandesh Says:

    you are dam sexy

  33. vishu Says:

    how r u
    mising u
    can we chat regularly my yahoo id is ram_una2001@yahoo.com or give me ur yahoo id . waiting for a sweet reply
    missing a friend like u
    take care
    reply soon
    bye

  34. Debbie Says:

    I was testing out friendster to see if there was correlation between the popularity of my blog and my main friendster pic and there most definitely is. We are so predictable!

  35. MamzZ Says:

    wow…

    its beutifully..

    sexy

  36. Jemmy Says:

    Mantap!!!

  37. walid Says:

    wow you are beautyful girl

  38. aziz Says:

    fate is what we blame for our failure in taking decisions,let’s be led by our own perseverence,hope,love

  39. roy Says:

    life is full of choices. the only choice is you made is your dicision but be very careful what you choice in life. life is your own your like the captain of your own ship. controlling your self which way or what direction you go. as in life we always stay the best for last and you take care and peace out….

  40. romY Says:

    u have a nice ….. u look like my x gf…i hope 2 c u n’ person someday…take good care always….

  41. bobby Says:

    hay baby girl just end it and drop me a line, i know it’s a little scary because no one likes to be alone , but if you’r not happy it’s not worth it , life is too short and beleve me i’v wasted pleanty of years , but i’m not waste’n them any more . Just something to think about. bye

  42. Camilla Says:

    Hello! I am in the same situation…I haven’t decided what to do but I think I will try to be rational and end this relationship. If he’s not able to giving what I need I will never be happy with him…It’s hard to leave a person that you love…but this relationship is even harder. Good luck:-)

  43. sammy Says:

    Why stress u’r self for one small problem in life?It’s just normal for everyone to have a problem.Why not give u’r self a break.Go to mall go shopping for u’r self or go to the beach.What i wanted to say is normal people never live without problem so don’t stress u’r self out.( peace out )

  44. Tiago Says:

    Hi..tudo bem???
    talveiz vc nao entenda pois sou brazilian
    mas .kisses
    bye

  45. cherry rose Says:

    law -ay….ah

  46. Michael Says:

    Not until your doubts are clear then you can decide. dont rush coz you might be having another thing to decide on.

  47. sammy Says:

    hi again and hope u have a peace of mind before u decide anything well good luck and GOD bless always take care lates……..

  48. MD NOR Says:

    Boleh larrr.not bad as aa woman…

  49. john Says:

    dear, i like you very much! i am a chinese captain
    at beijing! I do miss you, and I think of you
    often. It is a dilemma in some respects because I
    know things must be this way for now. I know you
    have a life flowing ahead, and much to accomplish.
    I just wish, hope we find a peace amongst our
    lives. keep in touch!
    my mobile phone number: +8613474997581
    Email:lieutenant28@gmail.com

  50. R'ChE Says:

    well,follow ur heart if u seen it is worthy go ahead, just try..God said…trials are not the reason 2 give up,but a challenge 2 improve ourselve.difficulties are not excuse 2 back out,but an inspiration 2 move forward.

  51. Algernon Says:

    Here’s something I do when I need to make a decision and don’t know which way to go. I’ll take a coin, flip it, and call it.

    By the time it comes down and I see what side is up, I often know what I truly want.

    Good blog - independently of the photo. ;-)

  52. Bill Says:

    I think you should follow your emotions and keep giving the person second and third and fourth chances until you’re nearly all gone and the only parts of you that remain are the pieces that tolerate and the pieces that hurt.

  53. Warren Says:

    Do what must be done and put a stand on whatever decision you would make…

  54. Debbie Says:

    Sammy, Algernon, and Warren–GREAT Advice!

    Bill–I see what you mean. Sarcasm rears its ugly head but I see that the reverse of what you advise is true.

    TTFN folks! Thanks for all the love. Especially from Chinese captains in Beijing! That made me laugh. :)

  55. jomel Says:

    hi there just drapi’n by see yah around!!!!!..ciao…..

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