straight date!
So in my attempt to revamp my life into something more meaningful, I started using online dating sites! I know, I know. I’m totally lame.
I’m on Match.com, ActforLove.org (an amalgam of The Onions ads, Salon.com, and others), and DemocraticMatch.com (thanks Alison).
I went on a date earlier tonight (Thurs.) with this guy who I had not a lot in common with. His profile was really generic and I think he didn’t really know what he was getting into either: he told me on the phone when we were planning it to remind me what he looked like and that he thought I didn’t have pictures… I have 10 pictures on this specific site! ONce we met he told me that the reason he messaged me originally was because of my picture… pshaw!
he’s an italian from italy, naples to be precise. He was much cuter than in his photos and I’ll admit that this was the main reason I went out with him. Oh, and because I need more practice dating straight guys and feeling comfortable w/out booze!
He asked why I moved to DC when all my family is in Socal and when I said for politics, he responded, "I want nothing to do with politics. I dont’ want to read about it and I don’t like to talk about it." My jaw dropped. That date was over.
Luckily for me I had chosen Dupont gay-cosi on 17/Connecticut for the date and texted my friends a half hour before in anticipation of a short and awkward date. I just KNEW that it would end as quickly as we had planned it.
The whole hour we sat there was awkward and uncomfortable. I couldn’t understand his strong italian accent at parts and he couldn’t understand my obsession with gays (I had to explain where I stood on this matter and be upfront right away). still, he kept insisting that we meet up next week and stay in touch. He asked why I wouldn’t give him my email and why I left our communication through Match.com. I caved and wrote it on a napkin. I know he won’t call because he’s not so good on the phone, so by giving him my email I guess I was sending a green light that it was okay to continue meeting up…?
As we said goodbye, we did it with a HANDSHAKE! hahaha he still wants to meet up! he’s really really cute. I don’t know, what should i do? heheheh I know what i have to do. I have a couple more dates lined up for tomorrow and the weekend…
Oh and one more thing (you’ll be proud of me): I went to Cobalt on Thursday night and had a diet coke! I gave my number to jason, the hot straight bartender who used to have my appletinis on the bar like pavlov’s dog when he saw me come throught he door. Jason is nice (and cute!) and I think I might give him a tarot reading… 
July 14th, 2005 at 11:46 pm
Love the name change, doll. I wouldn’t discount someone just because they hate politics though, he might have some other areas of depth. Up next a bottle of $4 water for Steve and Debbie at Cobalt. Buh bye, the days of being molested by a drunken Debbie…le sigh
July 15th, 2005 at 6:56 am
Name change, huh?
Oh honey, it wasn’t just the politics. I don’t think I’m ready to date straights because of all my current emotional baggage! Retreat! (into the gay community!)
oh, and don’t worry about a newly sober debbie not molesting you… ask Marco, http://www.friendster.com/user.php?uid=6286520, about last night!
July 16th, 2005 at 3:32 pm
Hmm…Don’t you think it is weird to meet someone online?
Don’t you afraid they may be a liar?
Well, I afraid to have a meet with online friends…
I afraid they will be a liar…
Anyway, hope you find the ones you loved!
July 16th, 2005 at 4:42 pm
Actually Young, I meet these guys in public in a place where I know I can run into friends (so of course, the gay-borhoods).
One guy I met was hotter than his picture, another guy was exactly what I thought. The thing that freightens me is how awkard these dates are and how hard it is to get into a good conversation rythym. I’m going out with this guy named Mark soon who seems really cool. Who knows? I’ll post later!
July 20th, 2005 at 1:12 pm
Internet dating is not lame! not that I’ve done much of it, but how the hell else are you going to find straight men in this city?? Email is a difficult form of communication yes, but I think if you email back and forth for a few weeks, then talk on the phone (always talk on the phone first–I learned my lesson: http://www.livejournal.com/users/elisam8/27127.html) and then meet up, as you did, in a public place with friends or a similar escape hatch nearby.
I miss you Debbie…