men vs. women: a question
Can straight men and women JUST be friends?
Let’s say that they are both single, both get along, both attracted to each other. What’s stopping them from trying? Is the only reason that a straight man and woman are not in a relationship is because there’s something stopping them from being in one. LIKE:
1) one person is not attractive to the other
2) one is in a relationship
3) one is not deemed "relationship" materials
What I want to know is–if I see a straight man with a straight girl as a friend, AND SHE COULD POTENTIALLY BE A GIRLFRIEND OR FUCK, is he her friend *just* for the potential of having her as a gf or fuck?
Just curious.
March 27th, 2005 at 6:10 pm
The short answer is no. I have plenty of single girlfriends that are not set aside as potential girlfriends or booty calls. I don’t think it’s really a “Harry met Sally” or Chris Rock thing where guys and girls cannot be friends because the guy always has an agenda. Is there attraction involved in most male-female relationships? I would be a moron if I said no, but that usually fades away with time. Alot of my closest friends were initially (and that’s important) either really attracted to me or me to them; however, with time it has morphed into a very good friendship and if someone approached us today about being in a relationship it would be met with a resounding “ewww”. The advantage (to all you guys) is my “girlfriends” have always been there to tell me “Hey dude, she really digs you” or “Don’t go there” or (the most often used) “You said/did what? Oh crap.”
March 27th, 2005 at 6:34 pm
Fuck-buddies?
Why not.
What do you mean by “one is not deemed “3)relationship” materials”?
And why do you ponder enough to ask?
Randy?Sounds like it.At least thats what im reading into it.
How male.Your crys for help I Misinterpret as an open invitation to an interlude.
And can You blame us males? You women are so beautiful. Not to mention that us males are so damm horny that we would make “love “to just about anyone and more importantly anything,inanimate to barnyard.(my personal favorite)
dont ignore you Beautiful and glorious pattagree! You come from a long line of horny men!
Your dad was horny and his dad was too.Your greatgrandfather was horny and his grandfather was also a sex-lovin funky monkey machine.
Yes the “2nd curse of being a woman:Everybody wants to fiddle with you faddle,must be tough.
And one last bit:In closing you “signed-off” with “Just curious”
?Ummm -iwonder-
I dont use the word”curious” anymore.To me it has become synonymous more with “Bi-Curious” than:”Curious George”
(And speaking of gay,”The man in the BIG Yellow Hat?”)
Maybe its because I live in the gay capital of the known Universe.
Perhaps you are “Just curious”
Debbie U R the Flea BOMB!
Bi-Curious George
-GEOFFREY-
P.s.Wanna Shag?
March 27th, 2005 at 6:38 pm
Your blog reminds me of ‘Bridget Jones’s Diary.’ Not the lame, desperate sequel but the original, when she was completely unstable but still adorable.
March 28th, 2005 at 2:06 am
Yes, men and women can get along just fine as friends. I have several girls that I’m friends with that are definitely NOT relationship material. Sausage-fests don’t make very good parties, and they don’t make for a very well-rounded social life.
March 28th, 2005 at 3:07 am
Yea, you need both to have a fun life.
March 30th, 2005 at 1:17 pm
I don’t think so. I mean I have single friends who I’ve wanted to since the time we met. And I have others that, well it’s just not happening.
And I am certain they all want a piece of me. Please note sarcasm.
The crazier thing is how fast I lose all my single female friends as soon as I get into a serious relationship.
April 2nd, 2005 at 7:00 pm
Straight men and women can be friends and its true that reason why straight men and women are not just into a relationship is because “something” is stopping them form being one. As the saying goes, “IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO”.
April 12th, 2005 at 5:41 pm
I think there was a movie on this topic…….
July 11th, 2005 at 3:54 am
The answer can be yes and no, because everything in life is different.
Sometimes when you come to know someone you like, you wouldn’t want to advance to a relationship anymore.
It’s just that humans are very very complicated. Our life’s problems cannot be determined by a single answer.