F*ck Buddies? Why?

A QUESTION FOR EVERYBODY: do you date/fuck/associate with people who you already know are not good relationship material because you don’t *really* want a relationship?

I’ve been avoiding relationships and at one point and for several years was drowning my life in gay men and alcohol. I believe that now, my behavior is closer to healthy, but I’m still picking guys who are too far for a relationship to work. Why am I so freaking scared of the opposite sex? Recently, I’ve been fine having sex with the ones I absolutely KNOW I’m not going to have a relationship wiht

19 Responses to “F*ck Buddies? Why?”

  1. Shawn Says:

    No, but then again I still find myself plagued by puritanical guilt even though I’m not religious. “Paging Dr. Frued…”

  2. Shawn Says:

    “Ahem…sorry…I meant paging Dr. Freud” (however the fuck you spell it).

  3. Natsuko Says:

    Well, I’m the same as you. The only difference is that I’m not afraid of boys or anything, it’s just that I’m busy with school and I wanna focus on my things rather than having relationships. I don’t have time to invest in boys right now, but it’s healthy to have fun with boys!

  4. BaCkYMD Says:

    It depends on how you look at it. If you feel your that type of person and by so doing your not gonna feel any guilt at all.. indulge. But if your not that type of person.. better not. At one point.. yeah, its nice to fuck somebody you already know without any strings attached..

  5. Juan Says:

    I aggree with the whole, busy thing not having time for boys comment. I’m the same way with women. I just can’t relate sometimes because I want her to leave me alone. I tried having a gf about a year ago and she was too needy. I loved her, lusted her, and even met her parents. But it didn’t work out because it all came back to that precious thing called TIME. I need time to do what I do best and that’s be free. So you wanna hook up now? Ha ha

  6. Matthew Says:

    What’s wrong with a f*buddy and why is it not a “relationship?” The women I have sex with may not be my girlfriends, but they’re certainly my friends. No one would say we have perfect relationships, but we have them. I say; don’t worry about the type of relationship you’re having-just have it! If seminal fluids get exchange, so much the better.

  7. Jon Says:

    My wife keeps getting in the way of the whole fuck buddy thing.

  8. tim Says:

    do you like older guys if so e-mail me tim

  9. Erik Says:

    it took me, like, five minutes to read oRen’s message, what the fuck is that!?

  10. Jon Says:

    That, my friend, is a poster-child example of why drugs are bad…

  11. oRen Says:

    drugs aren’t so bad… err…
    heh! eheh.. heheheh…

  12. Debbie Says:

    let me translate oRen’s weird post:

    “u’re not doing anything in gettN urself 2wrds a wider purspactifF of relationshp…”

    means:

    “You are not doing anything to expand your perspective of relationships”

    ——————————————————————————————–

    “if can’t let it be, might as well make it bleed..”

    means:

    I don’t know where s/he’s quoting this from, but it’s weird and I have no clue what it means. (and neither does s/he if you see below)

    ——————————————————————————————–

    “whuttahell’s that supposed 2 mean; i don’t noe.. erm… well, u’re not going nowhere with that kinda attitude, there’s always a chance 4 sumth better..”

    means:

    what the hell is that supposed to mean. I, myself, do not know, but with that kind of attitude there’s always a chance for something better.

    ——————————————————————————————–

    “u’re shutting a path of othr possibilities in life.
    erm, err… what the fuss am i sayin here anyway..? don’t mean 2 b rude or anythn like that.. jz wanted to say sumth, i’m bored… sorry!”

    means:

    “You’re closing yourself off to other possibilities in your life. Um, what the fuck am I trying to say here anyway. I don’t mean to be rude or anything like that. Just wanted to say something since I’m bored. Sorry.”

    ——————————————————————————————–

    oRen writes like s/he’s a 13 year old. ROTFL… you know what I mean?

  13. Benjamin Says:

    fuck as many girls as you can… or as many boys as you can… whatever you happen to want… with or without a ‘proper relationship’…

    any girls who want to fuck me without the hassle of a ‘proper relationship’ get in contact

  14. Debbie Says:

    Hmm… well when you put it that way it does make the whole fuck-buddies thing seem very sordid.

  15. oRen Says:

    i take that as a compliment

  16. oRen Says:

    yep, my english sucks, sorry

  17. Debbie Says:

    oRen… I don’t mean that you write like a 13 year old girl because your english is bad… on the contrary, i say you write like a 13 year old girl because my best friend’s 13 year old little sister writes all abbreviated ie: “CUL8TR” “BRB” “LOL” “WZZP” and all that short-cut IM speak… u no wut i mn?

  18. Jon Says:

    No, Debbie, I don’t. = )

    Oh, and Benjamin, this girl I examined at the VD clinic the other day wants to meet you.

  19. oRen Says:

    i shouldn’t have wrote that stupid post in the 1st place… now i feel like sum idiot in sumone else’s blog.

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